It Does Matter

It Does Matter

I had a strong, young, intelligent lady say to me: “This and that don’t really matter, because you can’t change it.” Some things that we go through in life we feel that it was just because for no reason at all and there’s nothing that can be done to change it. I told the young lady that she was looking at life wrong’ no matter what you go through, good or bad it does matter. It changes the way you will handle situations, how you will evaluate things before deciding on them. Each endeavor brings a revaluation of knowledge. I can’t tell anyone that sometimes the growing don’t hurt, I can tell everyone that the knowledge gained is priceless. If you hold close to you what you’ve learned, you will be a phenomenal person. Take the time to listen to the past so that you can brighten your future. I feel that we, the older generation, are responsible for the younger generations. At each given opportunity we MUST stop to hear them and really listen to them, and share our knowledge with them. The truth is what they are really looking for so don’t sugar coat it. While you may think they aren’t listening, they are. Make what you have to say matter. Teach the village.

Peace and Love

Raise Your Children

Raise Your Children

There are far too many children being raised by children. The parents of these children are not necessarily young in age, but are young in mind. No matter your age, raise your children or the streets will raise them for you. By you not raising your children don’t wonder where you went wrong, you already know. If you truly love them stop going out here and buying their love and fake respect with material things; but teach them to be good little girls, boys, good teenagers, and then they will be good adults. Looking at the things that are going on in the world today, our young black men are dying in the streets behind BS, and the sickening part of this is that it is for absolutely nothing. Do as I have done. I’ve asked the young brothers and sisters ‘What is that I could do to make a difference?’ Each and every one of them gave me the same response: “I was told I don’t know”….This, my people is sad, sad, sad. I like to think that I did not fail them in my display of life. I speak to the young brothers and sisters at every giving opportunity and I won’t give up. We need to be walking billboards for our children, surround them with positive things, and speak truth to them. Tell them what life is really about and how they can be successful. If you are your child’s friend then that is the wrong position; they need a real mom and a real dad, not just some friend. Trust me, they have enough of them. I blame some parents for not taking the right position in the village, thus causing a division with our children. Fix it people fix it, before it is too late.

Peace and Love

Racism

Are You Racist?

Not too long ago I had a young lady say to me it’s not always about color and I also had someone tell me that I am racist. Well I started thinking what such hypocrites some people are, to say that I am racist and not really know the ins and outs of what I have been through or what I’ve seen in my life. I always remember a voice of the past has said to me many times, “Baby just keep on living and you will see” and I will say the same to you all now. To say that I am just plain out right racist is wrong, but to say that I have prejudices would be right. I have lived, experienced, and seen some incidents that have been directed toward me and some were indirectly said toward me, and these things have always been based on my race and skin color. It’s because of life experiences we become who we are. The mistake that people often make is thinking that someone is automatically racist just because of the color of their skin. No! I do not dislike someone because of their skin color; I am prejudice toward the person(s) that treat me in different manner because of my race and skin color. For all of you who think they know what racism is check yourself, you may find that you are just like me. So don’t hate on my prejudices, they keep me focused. If you find that there comes a time when you may have to choose between your race and another (please trust me, the time will come), you’ll be surprised what the outcome will be. I on the other hand, won’t be surprised. It has been said and proven over and over again: “The Black race is the only race that doesn’t stick together”. You decide. Base your decision on facts! When you have the answer, whether you’re Black, African American, or whatever you want to call yourself, and you know you are not down with your people for REAL then figure out what to do to make a positive change, and do it. Don’t call me out until you figure YOU out.



Peace and Love

The Focus

The Focus

Where's the focus? Have we gotten to the point where we can forget about what is important in life? Is it just about you, your faith, your family, and your friends? Family is about the village… I see young women everyday needing the guidance of a real woman. I see young men everyday needing the guidance of a real man. As said many times before it takes a woman to teach a woman how to be a woman, and it takes a man to teach a man how to be a man. My Queens/Divas and Kings have you taught in the village today? If we don’t rise up and take our positions in the village there will be no villages. If we can teach the children to dream, we can teach them to achieve. Have you taught in the village today?

 Peace and Love

Virtuous Woman

Virtuous Woman

Yesterday I was listening to the Pastor speak and as he was speaking on women, the thought came to my mind, am I a virtuous woman? Am I displaying in my life what is right and acceptable to God and to the Divahood/Queens? Am I a woman who cares about her neighborhood, about the children? A woman who feels responsible and obligated to teach the sisters what it takes to be a strong sister even when she faces the adversaries? When you look at magazines, books and other paraphernalia you can find all kinds of self-help articles. I’m not someone from a magazine, a billboard off the highway, or the face of a Covergirl, I’m just somebody in the neighborhood. Thus, being from the neighborhood I have to ask myself, have I shared my knowledge in my hood, have I tried to reach the village? I strive to be a virtuous woman! For those of you who don’t know what a virtuous woman is, I invite you to read Proverbs 31:10, and if you feel compelled please read on. You don’t have to be a Christian to read the word of God. As Divas/Queens we have to govern ourselves by these standards so that we can be well on our way to become a virtuous woman. Let’s check our selves before we check someone else. Divas/Queens don’t forget what your roll is, don’t forget to share your knowledge with the future, because each day we all become someone’s past. Tomorrow will come, but if we are not careful the future Divas/Queens will be lost.

Peace and Love

Diva Gone

Diva Gone

On May 9, 2010 we lost a true Diva Mrs. Lena Horne. Mrs. Horne was born June 30, 1917 in Brooklyn, New York. Mrs. Horne paved the way and set the standards for future divas, and people of color in the entertainment business. Ms. Horne had to face much discrimination because of her skin color, not her talent which was superb, but her skin color. Young divas visit the biography on Mrs. Horne and ask yourself am I carrying myself like a diva? In order to understand where you are at right now you need to know where you’ve been. This means that you must acquaint yourself with your past, and that is those who have paved the way for you. I won’t judge and neither should you, but I will hold a diva to high standards. Just because a sister calls herself a diva doesn’t mean she is one. Pay homage to the past divas, for they are your future. Mrs. Lena Horne I thank you for paving the way for me to just be a proud black woman. Mrs. Diva we salute you. Rest in peace Mrs. Horne.